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Saturday, September 27, 2008

Legalism and Lutheranism…

Some occasional perspective is in order. I think we all need to be aware of who Confessional Lutheran Bloggers are, in general. Correct me if I’m completely off base, but it seems Confessional Lutherans are the conservative of Lutherans. And by our nature, the bloggers of the Confessional Lutherans are the nerdy and/or those with views that may, at times, seem legalistic.

This is where we eat the meat and spit out the bones. I’m rising to the blogging defense of Reb. Mary, and the other Concordian Sisters of Perpetual Partrusion . As a side note, I’ve never met any of them. My defense of them is how I perceive them, and they’ll probably correct me where I’m wrong.

People who have big families get a lot of flak, discrimination, and dare I say persecution. It starts from the liberals, you know, those who are concerned about carbon footprints and the perception that “those” people must certainly rely on government support. And, after time, those who are conservative and well meaning offer their “concern” about the wellbeing of mother and the next potential child. The proper response when you look at your neighbor in society is to exercise this ancient eastern art called nun-ja. Nun-ja business. A great deal of the CSPP blog is in response to the hate they get in society in general. And fellow Gen-Xers, who doesn’t engage in similar sounding defensive venting, and similar dry/sarcastic humor? And fellow humans, who doesn’t whine?

I personally know people who are very legalistic in their stance on contraception. Further, there are blogs and web-sites that are legalistic regarding contraception. The CSPP are *nothing* like that. I have a freak platelet disease called ITP. The scary thing for me is I generally feel perfectly fine when it acts up. I could feel absolutely wonderful and I could be dying. (Platelet count was just fine in my physical in August, by the way.) In October 2000, I was told to wait for five years of normal platelet counts that had not been sustained by drugs before getting pregnant or I could die and/or loose the baby. My friends told me that I wasn’t trusting in God because I was on oral contraception. I'm sure you all know of what they said to me and have all heard such things. God gave me modern medicine that could determine my health and make some suggestions on how to live a long happy life and have babies. I had even gone to their very legalistic church once where some guy said that he could discern whether or not women were on the pill by looking at them and he would openly confront them. Of course, he didn’t know I was on the pill because I was sitting with my friends who would *never* be tight with a woman on the pill.

One of these friends had four miscarriages in a year’s time. She was expressing her great sorrow and I listened. She and her husband were told to abstain from children until the doctor could find out and treat what was wrong, but her church was telling her to keep trying against the doctor’s suggestion. I pointed out that trying like that was like walking into a wall successively while the door is three feet away. You wouldn’t tell someone to keep walking into the wall. You trust your doctor to respect your values in such situations.

Anyway, so, the CSPP are not legalistic, and they’re pointing out, in a Gen-X-ey manner that they’re also the victims of legalism imposed by secular society and do not get the loving support they should from the church body. So, what’s the deal with always talking about not using contraception?

Here’s the overall problem. There are two issues that pastors do not touch from the pulpit: Gluttony and Contraception. Why? People take such topics the wrong way. They say, “Are you judging me?” The CSPP are talking about a taboo subject in Christian circles. It would be very uncommon to find a married woman among Boomers and younger who has not engaged in contraception of some kind. There are some issues that became prevalent with the sexual revolution that we must start to revisit.

Christians have a lot of explaining to do in the topic of Abortion. Our hands are stained with the blood of innocents. And, all too often, the most pro-life congregation rejects unwed parents who repent of their sins and vow to take responsibility with the help of the Holy Spirit. I shudder to think of youth who see the rejection faced by repentant sinners. Are we causing others to go down the path to abortion? We should all be ashamed of ourselves. When someone says, “Christians are hypocrites,” it is so easy to say, “Join the club,” instead of listening to the reason behind the statement. Everyone knows what an unwed mother’s been doing. And all too often we do not offer the grace of God to these women. And even if the father is known, we are all too often harder on the mother.

Now, with all of this, why is it wrong to discuss openly and in a loving manner contraception? If we are truly pro-life, believe that life begins at conception, and modern medicine points out that there is a chemical in The Pill that causes abortions, why can’t we specifically talk about hormonal contraception?

In Sacrament rites, I Cor. 11 is quoted, “A man ought to examine himself…” Why is it wrong for someone to hold up the mirror and talk about hormonal contraception? We cannot approach the alter and say, “God, this area in my life is closed to re-examination.” Rather, we can join the discussion, examine all of our actions in light of scripture and the confessions and approach God when we sin and say, “Father forgive me, for I have sinned.”

Am I saying the avoidance of pregnancy is always sinful? No. I’m saying it we need to re-examine all areas of our lives, and contraception is one of these areas. The CSPP are engaged in this discussion, and from the looks of it, have all had their journeys. Once you get past what obviously makes them Gen-X, enjoy their discussion. I’m sure they’re fun people and they offer love and support to those around them with Christ’s grace and mercy. We must not be caught in the trap, “Well, what do the CSPP think of me?” Who cares? We need to be concerned with our own sinful state before God and not what the CSPP think.

Pop culture...

Isn’t it horrible how catchy Kid Rock’s new song is considering it’s about under aged drinking, drug use, premarital sex, and rock and roll?

Thursday, September 25, 2008

PETA Sucks…

Or they wish they do…

PETA thinks it would be super great and ethical and crap to use human breast milk in Ben & Jerry’s ice cream.

There are some very, um, interesting comments. I was pleasantly surprised, though, to discover that there are PETA supporters who understand that people are more important than cows… or that soy plants are less important than cows. And I would concur on the soy plant thing. I mean, if you want to not hurt cows, than drink soy.

One thing is for certain, they won’t be siphoning off me. Call me selfish and not giving a rip about cows, but Mallory and my diginity are much more important.

Leave it to the liberals to think of a new way to exploit women.

Saturday, September 13, 2008

Checking up on Becky...

Becky, Sam, and Dolly made it through the hurricane OK. They're still home, but without power. If power stays out too long, they'll get out of Dodge, and go to a hotel. If I hear anything exciting, I'll update, but assume all is fine.

Wednesday, September 10, 2008

Happy Consecutive Odds...

It is time for my periodic post admiring consecutive odd-dom. Happy Consecutive Odds to those who made this pattern possible. Three cheers for the ERA, and many happy returns!

Ever notice how Becky is unlike the others... even though we're all odd?

(Of course, I did post this a bit early, but it is the appropriate date somewhere.)

A New Hope...

New life brings new hope for the future. Here's to a long and hopefully successful life as a Vikings fan. Mallory says the only reason they lost on Monday was she didn't have her swell outfit yet, but she is now ready for her career as a Viking's fan.

Josh says: "Yes, but the Vikings still don't have a QB. And Carolina is going to hand it to them in two weeks."

I add: When a house is divided, the one who buys the kids clothes determines which football team they cheer for.

Josh retorts: "Girls can cheer for Mom's teams and boys can cheer for my teams."

I strongly emphasize: The one who buys the kids clothes determines which football and baseball teams they cheer for, and I can always get an Aunt to buy a Cubs outfit for Mallory. There is no moral conflict between being a Twins fan and Cubs fan at the same time. But there is a moral conflict between being a Twins fan and Cards fan at the same time.

Saturday, September 06, 2008

Mockingbird Hill...

Bill started to teach us this song while we were in South Dakota. I'm posting it here for my convenience so I can learn it. That, and the pictures go well with the song.


Relief is what I felt when the concept of the gift finally clicked (Extra Nos). I need a constant reminder amongst legalism that there is nothing I did to deserve salvation. The work is finished. At that moment, I ceased to be a revivalist.

Mallory Pictures...

Here are some pictures of Mallory from her trip to see Josh's folks. The picture with the slate background is Josh's dad's. Then we have a couple of car pictures and a picnic picture.
A fun time was had by all, and Mallory traveled well, staying awake and happy on the way out, and doing some sleeping on the way back.

An election thought…

Also known as how HG and I got rid of our large stuffed animals… or the continued pay back for the indoor marching band toy… or I wonder how I’m going to suffer for the following tale now that I am a parent.

Seven or eight years ago, Mom was hosting Easter. Our cousin, Sam, had drawn some swell pictures of the Easter Bunny and his side occupations (Army Bunny had egg shaped grenades, for example). Dad admired Sam’s art, and asked for a couple pictures. Sam was reluctant to part with them until Dad offered a dollar apiece. You see, Sam was saving for half of the price of a scooter or some other toy. My aunt was horrified to discover her son peddling pictures and told our young entrepreneur to stop selling art for money.

Sam was disheartened until he remembered the children who belong to Mom and Dad’s house were adults, and adults don’t need toys. So, he took HG and me down to the toy room and we negotiated exchanges for what he determined to be a fair price, namely our largest stuffed animals. In order to see that our transaction would be completed, it was suggested that we bag the animals and take them to our aunt and uncle’s car for him. So, he borrowed his mom’s keys and we loaded them up.

Our aunt was quite pleased to learn what a great economist her son had become.

The good news is after his birthday money was counted along side the money from his sales, he had enough to pay for half the scooter.

Before you settle on who to vote for, keep in mind that kids are capitalists by nature. Socialism is learned.

Wednesday, September 03, 2008

A swell nomination…

Dan S. at NARN Wannabe nominated me for best of the MOB last week! Katie’s Beer took the prize, and deservedly so. However, it is still a swell nod!


PS. I was out of town and not keeping up on things, otherwise I’d have solicited votes.

Tuesday, September 02, 2008

Life of the mother?

I had a three page post on the questions Dr. H asks in Lutherans and Contraception. I told him I’d take a stab at his questions once we got back from our long weekend visiting Josh’s folks (Mallory traveled well, by the way).

I ended up deleting the original post I wrote because the more I think about the questions, regarding how moral it is for women to abstain from having children if they are high risk, considering modern medical advancements, the more questions I have, personally.

We abstained from having children for a couple years because my platelet count had the potential of being unstable enough to prevent implantation and unstable to the point where my life could have been lost had I gotten pregnant. Then Josh went to Iraq and his leave just happened to not coincide with my “fertile peaks.” So, Mallory is our post Iraq deployment “souvenir,” as our unit calls such babies. (You know you hang around too many military types when infants and children come with a description relating to a deployment.)

Our very pro-life (Catholic, NFP only) GP said my ITP should no longer be an issue, so, before Josh came home, I started pre-natal vitamins. We easily got pregnant. Apart from what turned out to be some minor issues, I had a nice pregnancy from week 20 to about week 32 or so. My pulse started racing and instead of going on meds, I worked it out that I could come home from work around lunch, take a nap, and work a half day at home. I went in for my normal 39 week, and in the span of a week, I had a substantial increase in BP. My BP had been borderline low, but was now in the high range. So, we went to the hospital for some labs and were told to stay in the neighborhood incase I would be induced that night. Turns out I was induced because of severe pre-eclampsia and my ITP. I had a lot of problems during labor and delivery, including a paralyzed diaphragm and a BP drop from 150/100 to 70/40 in a span of minutes, all during the C-Section.

Mallory was a pro the entire time. She was never in any danger, thank God.

I didn’t write the above to say, “Oh, poor Liz, she should never have any children again.” I love babies and long for more, and with modern medicine, it certainly could happen. But, we need to consult with an OB/GYN instead of our GP. In fact, our GP refuses to discuss it with us. We know, already, I’d have to have a C-Section (no V-Backs for women with a history of pre-eclampsia) and I’d have to go under instead of having an epidural (what paralyzed my diaphragm). The question we’ll make our decision off of is: How early can we deliver to maximize baby’s health and mom’s safety?

If an OB/GYN thinks my risks are that great where there is no point (ITP, pre-eclampsia and all) where baby’s health and my safety are both maximized, then we’ll have some serious decisions to make. All of these decisions will be made a year or so from now.

But, I do have some things in writing… when Josh was deployed I gave a medical directive stating child’s life above mine, just in case I got pregnant over leave. It was the easiest part I chose, really. When you talk about different life saving measures, one wonders, at my young age, what I’d feel while completely out of it. Those extreme cases were hard. But it wasn’t hard to say “baby over me.” It’s just hard to say, “Future pregnancies over me” or “Me over future pregnancies.”

I pray that we’re good stewards of our resources, both our medical advantages and our lives.